Cis Women: Go make your own spaces. Stop imposing your male energy on our spaces!
Trans Women: But we're not men and not "third gender," (at least, not most of us) and "making our own spaces" completely misses the point. We're women. The most male thing any of us has done today is shave.
Cis Women: We're not listening! La la la la la la la...
Trans Women: ...
The name that She gave to me is simply "The Horned Lady."
The birth of a Goddess is a momentous occasion. Aphrodite, who sprung from sea foam; Athena, who sprung from her father's head. Goddesses who are destined to change the world are never born in a simple way.
So too is it with the Lady of whom I now sing:
The Horned Lady floated in darkness. She received blessings from the gods and goddesses of all the cultures of the world, for her children live in all the world. From Asushunamir, child of Enki and rescuer of Inanna, she received fierceness and courage. From Blessed Inanna, she received beauty and majesty. From Athena, wisdom; from Artemis, tenacity. From Lady Persephone, sight in the darkness, when all other lights have gone out. From Lord Apollo, she received the brightness of the Sun. From Lords Aesculapius, Machaon and Podaleirios she received medicine and the surgeon’s touch needed to make her daughters whole. From Lady Seshat, she received knowledge.
From the Baba Yaga and from Lady Hekate, she received the gift of magick.
From the Mor Rioghan, from Queen Rhiannon, she received nobility.
From countless other gods and goddesses, she received humility and beauty.
From Psyche... she received a soul.
From the Furies she received righteous anger. Not only does she see and suffer the pain of her children - she seeks justice for them. Justice for the slain. Justice for those living in shadow. Justice for the cursed and spat-upon, justice for the weary who find no rest, justice for the ill who find no healing.
From all the Gods and Goddesses, thus, was She born.
Lord Morpheus took my pretense and said, "Dream." Lady Hekate took my fear and said, "Choose." Lord Hades took my anger and said, "Rest." Lady Ereshkigal took my illusions of safety and said, "Sacrifice." Lady Hela took my impulsivity and said, "Reflect." After these five sacrifices, devoid of negativity and falsity, I felt the presence of other souls in the underworld; ancestors and strangers alike. After completely losing all track of time passing, Queen Morrigan took my passivity and said, "Revive." I felt life coming back to me. Lady Persephone, finally, took my hand to show me the way to the world above and said, "Be Reborn."
This HURTS. It's painful and destructive. It tells me that no matter how many people tell me the right words, that they don't REALLY see me as a woman.
So here are the links to the first story of the Veronica Kirk Chronicles: The Crossworlds Affair!
The Crossworlds Affair on Archive of Our Own
The Crossworlds Affair on Fictionmania
I'm also taking suggestions as to additional fiction archives I can post the Veronica Kirk stories to.
Next story is already in progress - The Russian Gambit!
Katie Berger Tremaine
Putting the Gay in Gaming
From role-playing to MMORPG, we will discuss how sexuality, and homosexuality in particular, has been portrayed in gaming. We will discuss how GLBT characters are portrayed in the gaming world and the relationship between the gay and gaming communities
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Katie L. Berger
I thought a while about whether or not I really wanted to post these notes. Tyler Tork, one of the moderators, has the same information on his blog at tylertork.com - go there if you want to see his version. Otherwise, here's mine!
Free (and legal) Software Resources
Panelists: Adam Nave, David Walbridge, Rob Callahan, Tyler Tork
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In the last 5 years, an average of 15-20 trans women per year have been murdered. Going on the smallest credible estimate of trans prevalence (1:2500, Conway 2001), yielding a rough number of 60,000 trans women in the United States, we get an annual rate of violent death of roughly 15.6 per 100,000. This is approximately eight times the murder rate for the population of all women (2 per 100,000). Using more conventional estimates of between 1:200 (GIRES 2008) and 1:500 (Conway 2001), we arrive at a rough population estimate of 440,000 trans women in the US population, giving an annual rate of violent death of roughly 4 per 100,000, or roughly twice that of all women. Still concerning but less than some other subgroups of women.
My suspicion is that the 1:12 figure is based on the non-credibly low figures of 1:30,000 male births that were reached by Johns Hopkins in the 1960s and promulgated by psychological literature since them. The reasons the low prevalence is less credible is because the known trans populations in other nations than the United States have roughly a prevalence of 1:300 to 1:400 births, and moreover because Lynn Conway's survey of the trans community in the late 1990s revealed that 1:2500 persons assigned male at birth had already undergone a feminizing genitoplasty procedure. The Johns Hopkins figures would result in a murder rate of 390 per 100,000, a truly catastrophic rate (by comparison, the rate of violent homicide for the city of Detroit is roughly 47.3 per 100,000). We have been justifiably appalled at other anti-trans myths from that era that are still being promulgated by the same, aging, anti-trans feminists and patriarchs. We should discard as noncredible the estimates of trans rarity that were being put forth at that time by Men of Science whose goal was to diagnose and cure gender variance, rather than to encourage us to become ourselves.
I think that there are certain social myths - defining myth in the sense of a story that conveys truth without regard to its literal factual accuracy - that we trans women accept as true without sufficient question. One of them is what I am tentatively calling the 'murder myth.' The murder myth serves two purposes: It reminds us that we are special, and it reminds us that the world is a dangerous place for women of all kind, but especially for trans women. But statistically, it is inaccurate and it's probably a myth we shouldn't be telling.
Unfortunately, this presents a significant challenge as I am now applying for college, and without my name being changed on my high school records, I find myself forced to out myself to every college as transsexual in order to apply. This is grossly unfair and discriminatory as even though it is the same rule as for people who get married, people who get married are not being outing as belonging to a gender minority simply because their name changed.
Are there any resources or options for me? I have a court order, that should be worth something!!!
Yesterday I toured Hamline, informally.
Today I toured St. Kate's.
Monday, I tour Augsburg.
Tuesday, I go back to Hamline for a formal tour of the campus.
Thursday I visit Macalester
Two weeks from today, I visit the U of M.
As for St. Kate's... I really hope I can end up going there. It feels like home.
Today is International Pagan Coming Out Day - like National Coming Out Day in the Fall, this is about taking an identity that is misunderstood and not very common, and bringing it out into the light. In the Pagan community, we often talk about "coming out of the broom closet" when we talk about telling people about our religious identity, because the parallels to coming out of the closet as LGBT - the idea of bringing out a misunderstood part of your identity to public identification and scrutiny, with risk of losing employment, family support and other elements of majority privilege - are a little too obvious not to be noted.
There are a little less than 1 million Pagans in the United States - and I'm one. I practice a personal, eclectic form of Wicca and have recently started a process of initiation into the tradition of Hellenic-Alexandrian Wicca, which is a form that focuses on the Greek and Egyptian Gods. One of my matron Goddesses is Lady Tyche, the Goddess of good fortune, which is part of why the Hellenic-Alexandrian tradition particularly seems to speak to me at this point in my path. Like many trans women who practice a Hellenic tradition, I also feel a strong connection to Hekate, the Goddess of Crossroads and to three goddesses of the Tuatha de Danaan, Brigid, Rhiannon, and Morrighan.
So merry meet, and merry part, and merry meet again!
(I know thatgamerchick has and she's shared her experiences with me - thank you very much, Beth!)
Thanks in advance!
The body is in fact tremendously relevant to the whole thing - partly because transgender bodies are discriminated-against, horrifically-stigmatized, traumatized bodies. This is a fact that many people in this whole, long, miserable debate - in which trans women's womanhood has been time and again heartlessly dug up for question, traumatically examined, and arrogantly rationalized away - have been trying very, very hard to ignore. Cissexual women have without so much as a second thought been intellectually raping trans women through this entire ordeal - and "rape" is not a word I use lightly. Not all cissexual women, it is a specific subset of cissexual women - but it has been happening, and at this point I would be remiss to not call it to attention.
As long as the solution ignores trans women's need to be recognized AS WOMEN, not as second-rate, inferior, constantly-scrutinized simulacra of women, this conflict will continue because, as my friend Autumn Sandeen so cogently said:
The years are gone when trans women like me said nothing, and did nothing to help ourselves. We are tired of words, of betrayals, of indifference. We have the strength of new faith, and the strength of ourselves; and we will not give up until we see full equality.